Taking Control of Your Financial Life
|June 20, 2008||Posted by Roshawn Watson under Uncategorized||
Either consciously or subconsciously, we steer our financial lives. Throughout the day, we make a myriad of decisions that move us steps closer to success or mediocrity and financial struggle. For example, “Should I buy that suit today on credit or wait until I have the money?” “Should I start that business with a loan or make it cash flow itself from the beginning?” “Should I loan her the money or just say no?” “Do I really need an emergency fund?” The point is we are constantly making choices that affect our financial destinies, yet we often do not act like we are in the drivers’ seats. Instead, we often play the victim card.
Victims focus on “poor me”, and that’s exactly what they get. (T Harv Ekers)
One of the first characteristics indicating that someone has a victim mentality is that they blame everybody and everything except for themselves. Just ask “victims” why they haven’t excelled financially. They will blame the economy, the government, their parents, their spouse, their boss the devil, or even God. Some people seem to make a game of it: the more fingers I can point at others, the less responsibility I have to take on myself.
Another giveaway that someone is a financial “victim” is that they will rationalize their situations. They will say things such as “money is not that important.”
In adopting this attitude, they are adapting to their poverty rather than coming out of it.
A third characteristic of financial “victims” is that they are complainers. Complaining is detrimental to your financial success because you are focusing on what’s wrong rather than focusing on how to fix it. Remember what you focus your thoughts and your efforts on expands. Never underestimate the power of focus. For example, it is the secret of the laser beam: shear focus of light is a tremendous tool. Complainers are also infectious, and their poisonous words will derail your goals and vision if you let them. I avoid such individuals.
These “victim” characteristics are used to displace responsibility for our financial future. They are comforting, but they are dangerous. They can lead us to a financial destiny that we do not want. I will be blunt. “There is no such thing as a really rich victim” (T Harv Ekers). Besides… who would listen. Oh poor baby, you will just have to settle and drive the Rolls Royce today.
Relinquish your victim card, and choose to be rich today!
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Originally posted 11/30/2007
Copyright 2012, Roshawn Watson, Pharm.D., Ph.D. All Rights Reserved.